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How to Easily Stop Sibling Fighting (And Keep Things Sweet!)

Published: Dec 2, 2014 · Modified: Mar 15, 2020 by Zina Harrington · Post may contain affiliate links

This simple kindness activity will help stop sibling fighting in three easy steps. Teach your kids how to be kind to one another through this approach and help stop sibling rivalry. 

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Do you feel like you have fighting kids constantly? As if their bickering and whining will never end? Are they get along politely with their friends, but then act horribly rude to one another? Sibling relationships can be challenging and exhausting.

This simple activity will help stop sibling fighting. Ok, let's be honest. Any solution that guarantees to completely "stop sibling bickering," is definitely suspect, but this easy activity will help improve an on-edge relationship and improve a sibling bond.

I admit I grew up with three brothers, so being the mom of sisters fighting is a whole new world for me. I know my girls love each other underneath it all, but getting THEM to believe that started to feel like a challenge.

The most important thing in communication is hearing what isn't being said. The art of reading between the lines is a life long quest of the wise. ― Shannon L. Alder

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How to Stop Sibling Fighting

To kick-start this adventure in kindness I strongly recommend learning these two terms from Playful Learning. This will set the stage for success:

"Our words are powerful. By thinking about how they affect others, children begin to develop strong communication skills and can make good decisions about how they treat the people in their lives.

If I could choose two phrases that would be introduced into every household and school across the land, it would be 'put-ups' and 'put-downs.' These are two of the most powerful concepts I have ever taught in the classroom or to my own children. Equipping young children with a deep understanding of these terms gives them the ability to communicate feelings, which may have seemed almost intangible before. The language of put-ups and put-downs provides children with the skills needed for them to speak up for themselves as well as to stand up for others.

Simply stated, 'put-downs' are words or actions that make people feel bad, and 'put-ups' are words or actions that make people feel good. It is a simple concept to teach, and the impact can be profound. Ask your child to brainstorm real-life examples of both put-ups and put-downs.

The language of put-ups and put-downs provides children with the skills needed to speak up for themselves as well as to stand up for others."

― Mariah, CEO of Playful Learning