Have you got 98% of your holiday shopping done, but are feeling stumped when it comes to YOUR PARENTS? Gift ideas for parents (and in-laws) sometimes feel like a serious challenge. Check out 10 unique gift ideas for them below. A big thanks to Square Cash for sponsoring today’s holiday list.
I’m going to be straightforward here…
My mom is not one of those grandparents who swoons over adorable art or gifts featuring my kids’ handprints. She just isn’t. In fact, neither of my parents have that “gush-over-handmade-gifts-from-their-grandkids” gene.
Yet—believe it or not—their Love Language (that is, the primary way they show and feel love) is through Giving & Receiving Gifts. This means they’re very generous when it comes to giving presents to our family.
This puzzling concoction of circumstances always comes to light around the holidays, and it totally throws me for a loop. I want to reciprocate their generosity, but I’m not sure how to go about it.
Do you find yourself in a parallel situation?
You’ve got parents (or in-laws) who have everything, can afford anything, and are super-generous with your family, leaving you feeling STUMPED when it comes to gift-giving for them in return?
Below are 10 holiday, birthday, Father’s Day and Mother’s Day gifts that we’ve given (with success!) in the past, as well as a few ideas we’re keeping in our pocket for future years. This list is MY holiday gift to YOU!
10+ Unique Gift Ideas for Parents
Let’s get started…
1. An iPad or Kindle—Preloaded and ready to roll
Are your parents slowly adopting new technology? Mine, too. Don’t kid yourself, though…
Giving your folks a shiny new iPad still in the shrink-wrapped plastic is NOT the way to go. Get the iPad or Kindle, sure. But SET IT UP for them. Pick a password that’s meaningful and easy FOR THEM to remember. Remove (or move to a folder) any apps they won’t need or use. Download any apps or ebooks you think they’d enjoy. Essentially, have the device “ready to roll” the minute the gift ribbon is untied.
Quick tip: Consider creating a Gmail account for this device, so you can set up logins for things like Pandora, iMusic, and more. This way, if your parents ever get stuck, you can easily assist them from afar.
Perhaps most importantly, get the grandkids involved. Once the device is unwrapped, recruit THEM to teach Grandma and Grandpa how to play with the new toy. In the end, that might be what they treasure most… finding new ways to connect with their grandkids.
Some of the suggested gifts on this list have been collaborative gifts, where multiple family members have come together to help split the cost.
Now, if you’ve been the one in charge of collecting cash from family members, you know it can be an awkward conversation topic to bring up. As you ask, “Can you please pass me the gravy?” you’re really thinking, “Can you please pass me the 50 bucks you still owe me for mom’s gift?”
My suggestion? If you choose one of the pricier gift ideas in this post, consider using the free app Square Cash to quickly and easily coordinate “who owes who for what” among your family members. Check it out in the App Store or on Google Play. This way you can just relax and enjoy your special day with your family.
2. A Daily Instagram Photo Calendar (Here me out on this one before you skip to #3!)
I ordered one of these for my mother-in-law last year and she has loved it. She’s gone out of her way to mention it to me multiple times, which in my mind basically means, “Hint. Hint. Do it again next year!” The project seems like a big undertaking, but I swear… it took me only 20 minutes to order it.
In the past, I’d always given her a 12-month photo calendar, but this 365-day calendar is even EASIER. With a 12-month calendar, you need to pick JUST 12 images. A smaller number may SEEM simpler, but when you’re trying to “represent” the entire extended family, it can be a challenge. There can also be a sense of pressure to include only high-quality pics when doing a monthly calendar.
With this Daily Photo Calendar, you literally import your entire Instagram library and un-click pics you don’t want to include. It was so simple. And I love all the little daily moments we get to share as a family—ones that might not have “made the cut” in a 12-month calendar.
Give your parents (or in-laws) a whole YEAR full of memories to enjoy!
When I shared this list of gift ideas on Facebook a reader commented, “Last year we got my mom a Nixplay frame and put the app on all us adult kid’s phones. We can upload pictures directly to her frame. It’s great! You need that sweet spot of senior who has wifi but isn’t quite savvy enough to move photos onto a digital frame themself, but that describes quite a few parents!” Thanks for the great tip Anna!
My reply to her, “We bought my mother-in-law a digital frame years ago, but it is a hassle to have to get the images from different family members onto a memory card. I that you can do directly from your phone. That’s crazy cool. I might have to get this as a replacement this year.”
Shhhh. My sister-in-law and I chatted and… we’re going to split the cost of getting a 10″ Nixplay this Christmas. It’s going to be so cool with all the grandkids also having access to share photos with their Nana!
3. A Quirky Monthly Subscription
Subscription services have become a big trend over the last few years. You can find prepaid “clubs” that offer monthly gifts of beer, tea, wine, cheese, chocolate, flowers, pie, DIY projects… even steak.
My favorite type of gifts are the ones that keep on giving, like this ongoing subscription gift or the aforementioned daily calendar. Things that say, “You’re wonderful. We’re thinking of you. We love you.” over and over again, all year long.
4. DNA Testing for Ethnicity & Genealogy
Our family tree is a bit patchy on my dad’s side. We can go back a generation or two, but then there are a lot of gaps. If your parents have expressed curiosity about their genealogy, consider getting them a DNA test. There are a variety of different online ancestry sites that now offer this neat service. My dad was positively giddy to share his ethnicity results with us at the next family gathering.
The little boy in the top right photo, all the way on the left side of the table, is my dad. The picture is of the family’s last super in Germany before boarding the General Langfitt (the ship featured in the postcard above) and taking a 2-week journey across the ocean to the USA.
If genetics is not your folks’ thing, an alternative would be to look into memoir gifts. There are some really cool “letters to the grandkids” journals with writing prompts out there, too!
5. Permission to “Paint the Town Red”
Have you ever heard the phrase “Be a tourist in your own town”? So often, we get stuck in our daily routines. Why not give your parents the opportunity to step out and try something new TOGETHER!
One year, we planned dinner with my parents at a tapas restaurant. Let’s just say this is not exactly my parents’ style, but because of the small, shareable portion sizes, we all had an amazing time trying cuisine that we wouldn’t otherwise usually order. Having the kids involved helped my parents put on their brave faces and laugh at some of the things we tried that were “not their favorite” (our family’s polite way of saying, “Blech!”).
Another time, we casually suggested a “dinner date” with my in-laws on an upcoming Saturday night, but then secretly organized all the extended family to drive in from out of town for what seemed to my in-laws to be nothing more than a random dinner invitation with us four. What a fun surprise.
Never underestimate the power of bringing family together for your parents!
6. A Joint Learning Adventure
Pop online and do some local research. There are TONS of learning opportunities that you can gift your parents. Here are a few places to check out that often host classes: Parks & Rec departments, YMCAs/YWCAs, dive shops, local marinas, botanic gardens, dance studios, art centers, museums, retailers (like Michaels, JoAnn Fabrics, Williams-Sonoma, or Home Depot), and of course local universities or technical colleges.
Last year, we found a great Parks & Rec opportunity and gifted my father-in-law sailing lessons. While Grandpa attended his private lessons geared for adults, my girls took a kid-focused sailing session at the same time.
The experience was amazing for all three of them. He even ended up buying a small, used schooner shortly after that. We plan to head to Lake Superior again this summer to join him in practicing his new-found skill.
Adventure can mean sailing OR taking a cooking class, learning how to care for a bonsai tree, dancing the mamba, or doing beginning yoga. Inspire your parents to learn something new (with or without the grandkids).
7. Tickets! Tickets! Tickets!
Consider getting tickets to a sporting event, concert, boat show, theater performance, or gallery night. You can schedule a night out on the town for you and each parent separately (if they have differing interests), plan an evening out for them the grandkids, or make it an extended family experience where all are invited. In the end, it’s really about spending time together, however works best in your family this year.
8. Have an Old Photo Enhanced
Do a little snooping around your parents’ house and find a childhood or wedding photo to have enhanced and framed. One year, my aunt did this for my grandmother and it turned out lovely. She found a photo of my grandmother dressed up as an angel for a Christmas pageant when she was 8 years old and had it remastered, then framed.
I love the idea of including this whimsical quote with the gift.
Growing old is mandatory, but growing up is optional. — Walt Disney
Another year, I quietly nabbed a wedding photo from my parents, then had it enlarged, matted, and framed. So fun. And a lovely keepsake that can get passed down for generations.
9. Snail Mail Magazines
My parents and in-laws both still love magazines. In the past, we’ve ordered them print subscriptions to publications like Runner’s World, Everyday with Rachel Ray, Guide Post, Horticulture, National Parks, and National Geographic. My parents love to rip out articles to share with me still. It’s a wonderful excuse to connect with us on their terms and in their way.
10. A Weekend Trip for Two
If you have siblings to share the cost, consider collaborating to send your parents on a weekend trip for two. One year, my brother coordinated a short trip to Las Vegas for my parents. Start by ensuring that your parents block out the weekend on their calendar: Ask them to babysit for YOU that weekend! Then work your magic…
The expression on their faces when they realize the weekend is reserved for THEM is priceless.
BONUS IDEA: A Dynamic Gallery of the Ones They Love
You have tons of photos of your family on your phone, camera, and computer. Share them with your parents! Consider buying them a set of changeable frames for their home.
Next time you visit, snoop around for a place that they could hang a photo gallery. It doesn’t have to be a prominent location. Look for unexpected, but passed-daily places: back hallways, staircases to the basement, upstairs hallways, even the laundry room. Then order a gallery of changeable photo frames for the space.
One year, we ordered a set of beautiful wood frames from Easy Gallery for my mother-in-law’s entryway. The cost of a well-crafted gallery set can be high, making it a nice group gift. This particular collection was $500 for a set of eight American-made, environmentally-friendly, wood frames.
If you decide to purchase a gallery, have your siblings each print some photos, so your folks have a variety of images to rotate through and store in the easily changeable frames. Consider digging into the archives and scanning some pics from your own childhood, too! I love that every time I stop by their houses, there are new photos in the gallery.
Another year, I bought a changeable photo gallery for my father, too. He’s big on triathlons and running, so I included some photos of him and the kids along with the frames. My father has prominently displayed the gallery with his running ribbons. Now every time one of our girls runs an event with him, I send him a photo for his gallery. It’s been a wonderful ongoing gift.
So… what are your gift ideas for your parents (or in-laws) this year?
If you have any questions about the ideas we chatted about today, don’t hesitate to ask in the comments below. I’d also love to hear about things or experiences you’ve gifted in the past, too. We’re always looking for more ideas!
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