Summer break is around the corner. Before it begins, I tend to romanticize summer break with daydreams of playing in the sprinkler, bike rides, and trips to the lake. The truth is, this extended togetherness often leads to a lot of parenting frustration.
Tired of the yelling? Tired of the whining? Tired of being tired?
You’re not alone. From toddler temper-tantrums to tweens talking back …
how do we keep our cool and get our kids to cooperate over summer break?
Below are 7 pro-active parenting tips to help make this a SMOOTH summer.
1. Prepare yourself ahead of time for stressful parenting situations. Discover proven tools for your most frustrating discipline dilemmas including the 5 R’s of Fair & Effective Consequences. This year I’ve partnered with Amy McCready, founder of Positive Parenting Solutions & TODAY Show contributor, to offer a FREE LIVE training affiliate webinar to parents on Thursday, May 1st at 9:00pmEST! Learn more.
This hour-long investment will leave you with ideas you can start using the SAME day. All you need is your computer. (No webcam required.) You’ll see and hear Amy on your screen and you can even ask questions and she’ll make them part of the presentation. If you’re tired of nagging, reminding and yelling to get kids to listen – this session is for you. Webinar seating will be limited so learn more and RSVP now!
2. Keep the kids well feed and hydrated. Yeah, it sounds easy, but in the chaos of summer these two basic needs often get lost in the shuffle. Click here for seven simple quick tips for avoiding tantrums, including on-the-go tips to ensure hunger and thirst don’t become an issue. This is so me …
I’ve even considered buying this t-shirt. Ha.
By the way, if your children spend a lot of time outdoors in the yard or neighborhood, consider creating a water station for the kids. I’ve been considering this Unbreakable 3-1/2-Gallon Beverage Dispenser with Removable Ice-Cone for our garage this year.
3. If your child thrives on consistency and routine, consider creating a summer schedule. I have a SAHM friend who creates a weekly routine. For example…
Each Monday they go to the library, Tuesdays they visit the neighborhood park, Wednesday they do a special Mommy & Me Breakfast Date, Thursday they do a kid’s craft, and Friday they enjoy snuggling to a mid-day movie.
As a part-time working mom, my variation was a little more loose, but still consistent. For example, every Wednesday our local aquatic center would offer half-price tickets after five o’clock. We’d do our best to take the girls swimming each week. I admit, ice-cream breaks are a part of our regular schedule.
Do you create ongoing summer schedule with your children? Let’s chat in the comments! Please share additional suggestion on what works for YOU.
4. Look for opportunities to say YES. Have you read the book Yes Day by Amy Krouse Rosenthal? It is a popular title, but it didn’t quite sit right with me. Children don’t need non-stop yes, yes, yes, for a full day. Children need a lifetime of small “yes moments.” Learn how to embrace yes moments, even when your instincts says no. Let them play. Let them get wet. Let them be children. These are the treasured memories of childhood which will earn you “The Coolest Mom EVER” award.
5. Have you got a little introvert in your home? Let them have their space. Check out this great collection of ideas for quiet time and independent play. Set them up with an activity and give them space to concentrate and recharge.
6. Does this sound familiar? “Give it back! That’s MINE.” Take the time now to teach your kids these empowering words to help them SHARE on their own this summer. I’ve seen this work with toddlers and elementary school children. It is a great technique for practicing this life skill.
7. Breathe. I admit that I too am a “recovering yeller.” (Watch intro of this video.) When things get chaotic, when I feel like I can’t take another moment of whining, when my skin starts to crawl with frustration, my default is to yell … loud. Take 5-minutes to just breathe OR try giving yourself a time-IN.
I know yelling is not the best approach, yet despite that knowledge, sometimes when the moment escalates I can feel myself letting go of reason. I can’t stop to take a breath. Here’s the catch with yelling: it always seems to backfire, especially with a strong-willed child.
Can you relate? Again, be sure to RSVP today for the free parenting webinar on Thursday, May 1st at 9:00pmEST. It is an opportunity to pick up a few new parenting tools from the comfort of your home. Two of my favorite bloggers, Stephanie Morgan of Modern Parents Messy Kids and Alyssa of Creative with Kids, both rave about how much their reader’s enjoy this session. I am looking forward to participating with you.
How are you preparing for the summer? Let’s chat in the comments.
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Image Credit © Lance Neilson | 07.21.10 | CC by 2.0 *Thank you to of Lance Neilson of 2nd Shift Photography for sharing these expressive shots of his son under creative commons. You can find his most recent work here on Facebook.
About Amy McCready
Parenting expert Amy McCready is the Founder of Positive Parenting Solutions and a “recovering yeller.” She is a champion of positive parenting techniques for happier families and well-behaved kids. Amy reaches a worldwide audience with her Positive Parenting Solutions Online course and is a frequent guest on the TODAY Show and has also appeared on Rachael Ray, CNN, Fox & Friends, MSNBC, and elsewhere. In her most important role, she is mom to two teenage boys.
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